In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Dear Mom.”
‘Write a letter to your mom. Tell her something you’ve always wanted to say, but haven’t been able to. ‘
I’ve been offered unconditional love from my parents my whole life, yes we annoy each other, yes we fight, yes there are times we don’t talk or if we do we’re screaming. But that’s all part of family life, you fight with passion because you love each other so much and expect a lot (even if you don’t mean to).
Although, I don’t think love can ever be truly unconditional, I think all love demands love, or at least respect, in return, and if you accept unconditional love I think it comes with the condition of gratitude. As I’m off to university in September I only have a short time left to show that gratitude, and I’ve already started by spending more time with my parents, but I’ve also written a card and have my eyes out for a present to thank them for everything they have done these past 18 years.
So, I’m cheating a little as this is what I’ve written to both of my wonderful parents, and they will get to read it in a few months:
Thank you for all of the support you have given me over the last 18 years. From spelling tests to being able to write an essay detailing the pros and cons of the American electoral system, you’ve always given me the support I needed to do my best. Even when I was in tears – like when I was convinced I would never pass my maths GCSE – you believed in me. Thanks for all of your faith in me and putting up with the tears and stress!
I’m grateful for all of the wonderful opportunities and experiences you have given me. My childhood is filled with memories of our big, blue plastic swimming pool and trips to Disneyland, and my teenage years of live music and being given the freedom to explore this small part of the world, and the wider world on family holidays. I’ve been very lucky to do everything I have, and that’s down to the both of you.
Even though I haven’t always said it I love you both so much. I couldn’t ask for more understanding, loving and trusting parents.
…Although, I never did get a pony…
I promise to email/call/text as often as I can. Don’t be surprised when all I do is complain about having to do adult things for myself, like washing up and food shopping.
No getting a rabbit/guinea pig/bird/cat/dog/donkey/horse to replace me!!
Lots and lots of love and gratitude’
I probably should be able to write something filled with beautiful metaphors and sound like Shakespeare came back from the dead to write one last thing, but these are my parents and this isn’t English coursework, my parents know how I talk and what I’m like. My parents know I can be a pain, but they also need to know that I love them before I go off for what might be the rest of my life. I’d urge anyone going to university, anyone leaving home or anyone with something they need to say to their parents, even if you’re afraid to do so, just say/write it. They’ll never know unless you do.
July 15, 2015 at 3:46 pm
That’s lovely. I’m sure they will treasure it. Better keep a box of tissues handy 🙂
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July 15, 2015 at 4:03 pm
Haahaa, I’m considering giving it to them with strict instructions not to read it until I’m safely at university! -G x
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July 15, 2015 at 4:34 pm
And miss seeing their little faces when they open it?
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July 15, 2015 at 4:41 pm
I think I’d just find it so tense watching them read it. I’m a bit odd like that, I also can’t stand watching people open gifts I’ve given them for birthdays and Christmas,it’s why I always say the best thank you is to use a gift!
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July 15, 2015 at 4:41 pm
I did this when I was reading a book “The Magic”. I didn’t write a letter I called my parents and said in shaking voice ” Whatever I am today in my life and in future I owe to you. Without you I could not have done this” . I cried after ending the call. That day I thanked all members of family for being part of this life . So, I won’t be regretting anything if I die today.
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July 15, 2015 at 4:45 pm
That’s such a lovely thing to do! It’s great that you won’t have any regrets (although I hope that you don’t die today or any time soon!)
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July 15, 2015 at 4:49 pm
LOL.. Don’t worry. I’m just 26 and I believe God has sent me here for the purpose so I hope it’s a long stay:)
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July 16, 2015 at 7:33 am
For those of us who have free and open dialogue with our parents it can be difficult to imagine not being able to say anything to them or talk to them about anything and we can neglect to be grateful for that alone. In some ways it could be seen that writing it down is a cop out but then sometimes the written word is more poignant even for those who can say these things. I guess the written word is also something to treasure more if you’re a sentimental type or more importantly your parent/s is/are.
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July 16, 2015 at 8:09 am
My parents are very sentimental, they’ve kept all of the cards me and my sister used to make and paintings and things like that, so I think they’ll like having something physical to keep.
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July 16, 2015 at 10:12 am
That’s lovely my mum.would rather have cake and she got tired of keeping our paintings as I only ever painted boots and my brother only painted fires. He trumps me these days as he writes her songs I can’t compete with that…although as I say cake comes in a close second. I’m sure there will be tears when the card is read and you head off to uni.
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July 20, 2015 at 11:59 am
That’s a wonderful letter to your parents… and It wouldn’t hurt others to do it once in awhile for any reason and to anyone they love and appreciate… Diane
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July 20, 2015 at 12:49 pm
Aww thank you – G x
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